i mean just so y’all know i don’t consider myself a stiles stan but i get a little exasperated by torching a sixteen/seventeen year old kid for having a crush. there are a lot of things that stiles does that are skeevy as fuck (see: being in lydia’s room with her, alone, while she was DRUGGED OUT OF HER FUCKIN MIND)
but in my experience stiles is a teenaged boy who, by all accounts, has accepted in season three that lydia is just his friend. if that’s the case, if he’s really moved on and let go, then that’s a good narrative? teen wolf saying “no, lydia is not simply some goal for this kid to strive for and eventually attain” is a subversion of a really harmful trope which tells me that stiles’s narrative is one of
- doing gross stuff
- then not doing the gross stuff anymore
which would imply, i guess, learning? which i think is… a really good narrative to HAVE and to SEE played out on TV?
so pulling shit from his narrative out of context and going “THIS IS WHY STILES IS NICE GUY THIS IS WHY HE’S GROSS THIS IS BLAH BLAH BLAH” kind of defeats the purpose of, you know, putting this kid out there who’s trying to feel his way through life’s lessons at the tender age of 16/17.
examine the narrative, recognize what’s problematic about it, and FRY THE FUCK out of people who are like “stiles DESERVES lydia” all you want but i’m just saying that i think stiles himself is realizing that that’s not the case and i think that’s pretty cool myself

“Here in the sight of gods and men,” he said, “I do solemnly proclaim Tyrion of House Lannister and Sansa of House Stark to be man and wife, one flesh, one heart, one soul, now and forever, and cursed be the one who comes between them.”

Sometimes you just fall in love with somebody, and you’re really not thinking about what gender or whatever they happen to be. If I happen to fall in love with a woman, everyone’s going to make a big deal out of it. But if I happen to fall in love with a man, nobody cares.
“There’s a part of “Closer to the Edge” where Leto screams “No, no, no” and in the video, you see him thrust his arm and the crowd of thousands follow his lead. It’s as powerful as a music moment as I’ve ever experienced and I wasn’t even there to witness it. I want to be in the crowd singing with their fans, weeping away my sorrows and wiping away the tears of joy because the sensation their songs provide is a reminder of how grand and wonderful life truly is.” (x)